Dr. Yukari’s Listening Lounge #9-1, Carrying Her

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The following tale is a famous Buddhist parable about two monks and a woman. The traveling monks came to a wide river with a strong current where a young and pretty woman sat puzzled, unable to cross alone. She asked the monks if they would help carry her across the river.


One of the monks, Tanzan Hara swiftly picks up the young woman, crosses and then sets her down across the river. The young lady thanked the monks and they went their separate ways. The fellow monk Ekidoo is shocked that the other monk broke the sacred vow he took not to touch women. Hours pass as they travel on. Finally, Ekidoo speaks unable to contain himself,


“We took a vow as monks to not touch women. What you did with the women was strongly against the vow we have taken.”


Tanzan laughed and replied,


“I have set her down hours ago by the river. Why are you still carrying her?”


We have encountered many people similar to Ekidoo who are hard-working and abide by an unwavering code of ethics. They follow rules religiously and expect others to do the same. We encounter these people in the workplace, school, and other areas of our community. While they may have the best of intentions, they can sometimes be too strict about what is seen as right and wrong.


This famous Buddhist parable is interpreted as a story of forgiveness. (To be continued…)