Dr. Yukari’s Listening Lounge #12-1, Forgiveness Project

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A few summers ago, I had the pleasure of hosting two Japanese girls for a few weeks at my condo in Honolulu. The two girls were middle school students from Okinawa, who were specially selected to visit Hawaii in order to learn about Hawaii’s culture, history, and way of life. As their host mother, my duties included preparing a daily lunch, listening to their stories and occasionally driving them to various activity sites. During their time here, they stayed in my daughter’s room since she had an internship in Florida. 


During one of these days, they came home from a visit to the Arizona Memorial and Pearl Harbor historical site with a story to share:


One of the girls started off by saying,


“While we were in Japan, we learned that the history of Okinawa was based on suffering.”


The other girl added,


“Okinawans suffered atrocious war crimes. Many were injured and killed with survivors having to deal with the aftermath. My grandma was injured and my uncles and grandpas were all killed. Even today, we continue to have problems because of the US military presence that exists on our island. But, today we learned about the many people who suffered at Pearl Harbor as well. Even though Japanese people were victims, we recognize that American people suffered as well.”


The 15-year-old girls reflected on their new-found perspectives. The meaning behind their words were deeper than they seemed to realize. It is important to recognize that we could become perpetrators capable of hurting others when a circumstance arises. We must recognize that as a person, or even a nation, we can become a perpetrator of suffering with or without conscious awareness.


Reflecting back on this story, I learned a similar lesson from a story called the “Forgiveness Project”.


(To be continued)